Fill The Bucket

The theory of the dipper and the bucket. We all have an emotional bucket. When it's full we feel great and when empty don't go near us. We all have a metaphorical dipper either adding to or taking away from the levels in our bucket. Every interaction we are involved with adds or takes away. Many people want to figure out how to add to their bucket. The key in tons of research has been to give to others and that adds the most to your bucket. Clinically that changes you.

Positive emotions have been tracked to higher vitality rates. Living 10 years longer than people with negative emotions. People talk about smoking or weight loss but research shows this is actually up there with those two. 20,000 waking moments each day lasting a few seconds. The neutral moments don't stick but the ups and downs do. We may think it's ok to be 1:1 in terms of positives vs. Negatives but the truth is we need to shoot for over 3 positives for every 1 negative.

Where can you get your positives? :
1. Giving to your team. Hope, encouragement, love, getting their promotions and pictures on the site
2. Online trainings
3. Videos
4. Coaching site
5. Goals, planning and taking action towards your future dream
6. Sharing the opportunity with others

A few positive emotions and moments can go along way. This is especially important when people are new and things are surrounded in fear and may seem more negative than they really are.

#1 people leave their jobs is because they don't feel appreciated. It has nothing to do with the work or the pay.

Optimistic people have more dopamine and t4 cells that help fight diseases in their blood.

5 strategies to help positive emotions
1. Prevent bucket dipping. Try to add to others buckets instead of dipping and removing from theirs. One person of leadership can change positive emotions through a whole team rather quickly. We need to lead the charge in terms of adding to others. If someone is always negative and you can't change it no matter what you've tried to do you will need to steer clear of them.

2. Shine light on what's right. Focus on anything and everything that is good. School grades most pay attention to the F's and not so much the A's. It is better to focus the bulk of attention on the positive grades and work on strategies to increase the lower grades. Same thing in our business....Focus on people's strengths.

3. Make Best Friends. When people have best friends at work they are always more productive. Familiarity breeds more success.

4. Give Unexpectedly. Expected gifts are ok but they are expected. Giving them responsibility and trust. Having them do more and more in the business. Some think that would stress them out more but that is not true.

5. Reverse the golden rule. Do unto others as they would have you do unto them. How would they like to be treated.